I am wondering if any one in my age group of 59 has ever felt this way will explain.
My mother was a manic depressive and all sorts of problems directed mainly at me.
She was very narcistic and dressed beautifully, everywhere she went ( so she said) people commented on her appearance, but to be honest she always looked so well dressed even for the most casually outing and event.
Now I sew for myself I often feel as though I am wearing what she would of worn although I do not over dress as she did.
Every time a choose fabric I worry that I will look like my mother.
I ask one of my daughters if a couple of the pieces i had chosen looked like her grandmother ” yes she said”.
I suppose at this age i am now was the time when she was cruelest to me.
She always had her clothes made by the best dressmakers.
I now think my daughters think that my wardrobe is beginning to look, like my mothers. I really want to avoid this also, but find I love the long skirts she wore and the blouses etc.
I love that look I know its not exactly in fashion now, but I love nice well made flat shoes straight skirts just above my ankle T shirts and blouses.
Now I am retired I do not need suits etc.
Is there any one else out there who feel they are starting to look like their mums.
Of course for most people this is just wonderful but for me who had a mother who only chose to speak to me when she wished, and make my life so sad, its is something I want to avoid, I bend over backwards to be there for my family.
But I do not want them to see there nanna.
This is most very unusually to chat about but one cannot ask others who are not in to sewing or fashion for ourselves.